In the past few weeks I have become increasingly aware of the 'Mummy wars' - conflicts between mothers on styles of bringing up children, ranging from issues over breastfeeding to attachment parenting and an array of other topics.

I have seen mothers criticise each other over issues that really are not massive in the long run.

In response to these mothers I have tried to point out that the small decisions we make when parenting are not necessarily those that shape that child's path for life.

What Judith Ancer's article does is present exactly what the crux of a "good-enough" mother/ father is: emotionally responsive, present and one who keeps her baby in mind. This is the crux of parenting and protecting our baby's futures.

I think it is one of the most important lessons a new mom can learn. Don't sweat the practical decisions. Sweat the time, the love and the presence of mind. These are the issues that will shape your baby.