Thief in our midst
I invited friends over for dinner. After they left, I noticed cash was missing from an envelope in my room. What should i do?
YOU need to try to get to the bottom of this for your own peace of mind and to avoid corrosion of trust .
I suggest you stop thinking of who it could be and start focusing on what could have happened.
You can then engage your friends on the matter, without making them feel like they need to defend themselves. Treat them as if they are helping you piece a story together.
When you confide in each of them and ask for their theories of what happened, you will be in a position to asses if any of them could have been the culprit. - Leonard Carr
YOU can't be absolutely sure one of your friends took the money.
However, if you start behaving as if one of them is a thief , your relationship with each of them is bound to change.
This will be a big loss if your assumption is false.
If you are sure there is no other possible explanation for the money being removed, consider the following:
- Was it such a significant amount that you feel you need to address it?
- You could ask if any of your friends noticed an envelope with money that night as you need it now.
- Is there anyone in particular you suspect might have invaded your belongings in this way? If so, you could confront this person. It might mean losing a friend, but you won't lose all of them.
- Create a new group of friends if you can't trust members of this group to share your values. - Stephanie Dawson-Cosser