After reading about sexual abuse, i find it difficult to leave my child with anyone other than grandma. Am i paranoid?
Children are innocent and curious beings who enjoy playful affection.
When left to their own devices their natural curiosity goes to covered-up parts of the body.
We keep children protected from interaction that will awaken their innate sexual understanding so they do not become sexualised at an age when they do not understand the social, emotional and moral implications of sexual relationships.
We also protect them from becoming easy targets for exploitation by predators or the crossing of boundaries with family and friends.
People get into sexual play with siblings, cousins or peers because of curiosity and natural children's play.
There can also be the exploitation of younger children in a family by older ones.
Then there are adults who know how to recruit children into sexual activity by gradually shifting from normal affectionate interaction into sexual interaction so as not to alert the child's defence mechanisms. Sexual interactions among pre-adolescent children, even if not classifiable as abuse because they happen in play and between peers, can be damaging.
While it is not necessary to be paranoid, parents need to be aware of what is happening in their children's world, who they are with and the nature of the interactions. - Leonard Carr
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