Hit the brakes

I am terrified to be in the car with the love of my life. I have told him subtly he is a bad driver, to no avail

SHRINK WRAP

Your problem is not simply about being safe in the car. It is really about feeling safe in the relationship.

If you cannot share your feelings of anxiety regarding your physical safety with him, you do not have real emotional trust in the relationship.

Consider how you will deal with more sensitive issues if you cannot discuss something as basic as your need to feel physically safe with him.

The situation is relatively non-threatening and could be used as a test. You never know how strong a relationship is until you have tested it.

You may find yourself pleasantly surprised to discover your relationship has more capacity than you imagined when it comes to containing discomfort.

SUPERNANNY

If you cannot be truthful with your partner, your relationship is based on a fantasy of what love is.

I am averse to gender stereotypes. However, it is generally understood that men will respond to a clear message, such as: ''When you drive like this, I get really scared" rather than ''I know in another life you must have been a rally driver".

If you cannot speak about this, you are laying a poor communication foundation and you will bottle up your feelings until you cannot contain them .