SHRINK RAP

THINGS have to change in order to remain the same.

In order for a family to stay the same it has to master two tasks.

The first is to adjust to new demands that challenge relationships. The second is to maintain all the elements that define the group as a family.

The family has to find ways to deal with tensions that arise when new people from different backgrounds come into a family.

Another challenge is to appear to get on with spouses and children whom you may not like.

Maintain respect for individuals and the sanctity of their marriages, regardless of how you feel . Resist gossiping about family members or saying anything that could cause hurt or offence. - Leonard Carr

SUPERNANNY

THERE is nothing quite like a family celebration to get people together again.

If your parents are alive, perhaps there is a significant birthday to celebrate or wedding anniversary that can be the catalyst. Each of the siblings can get together with your parents to plan the event, and as part of that process give time to catch up with each other. Another way for siblings to connect is to plan a holiday together.

Can you imagine the fun of all the cousins finding out about each other, being inspired by older and younger peers, sharing beach walks or hikes? It could become an annual event . - Stephanie Dawson-Cosser