Game changer: Toys for girls (and boys)

Using a sex toy on your own is one of the best ways to channel your "inner goddess", says Coco.

The curvaceous reality TV star and her husband, Ice-T, are in South Africa for the sex and health lifestyle expo, Sexpo, to promote CocoLicious, her range of sex toys, with pleasure product manufacturer California Exotic Novelties.

"A lot of women don't know about their inner goddess, but if you get a toy and you work with it on your own, and get comfortable with it yourself, then you can move on to [using it with] your partner and just open up a whole new world," says Coco.

CocoLicious has 12 items that come in either black or a unique hot pink that was made specifically for Coco and is trademarked as Coco Pink.

"[California Exotic Novelties] sent me a box of their best-selling stuff and Ice and I did our homework by trying out everything in the box. I picked some of my favourite ones and made them my own," she says.

The unique thing about the range is that the items are things you can conceal in your handbag because the products look like everyday cosmetics.

For example, the CocoLicious Hide and Play Lipstick looks like a normal lipstick and the CocoLicious Pleasure Bullet is cleverly hidden in a make-up compact.

While she is comfortable with her sexuality and the use of toys, Coco says she knows many women are not.

''A lot of women still feel insecure. There's definitely a taboo associated with using toys and I'm trying to put the message out there that it's OK."

Some couples have stigmatised the idea of using toys, worrying that the plaything will somehow replace "the real thing", she says.

"Some guys worry that the women will get addicted to the toys and some women think of it as a replacement for their partner. But the real deal can never be replaced. Toys are just something to add to your relationship," she says.

Catriona Boffard, a sexologist practising in Bryanston, agrees: "An electronic toy cannot replace the touch of a person because you don't get an emotional connection from an electronic object."

This also makes it unlikely for a woman, especially, to get addicted to the sexual experience with a toy.

A woman's sexual experience is more than just the physical experience, she says. With women, Boffard says, "it is metaphysical; it is emotional and psychological as well".

Boffard suggests adventurous couples willing to try sex toys should start small and work their way up.

"The bullet vibrator would be the best because it's not intimidating. It's the entry model into sex toys," she says.

For the less adventurous, Coco suggests channelling your inner goddess by putting on a pair of heels and strutting your stuff.

"A pair of heels, for me, completely changes my mood and makes me feel sexier," she says.

"Also, work on your walk.

"Guys really look at the way a woman walks and if you have your shoulders back, head held high and a sway about you, that's sex appeal."