Should we be friends with exes? NOBeing friends with a former lover is the mature thing to do. It's the badge of honour that grants you entry into adulthood. It's also like giving a blind pyromaniac a flaming torch and asking them to navigate a maze made of gunpowder. Sure, if one behaves maturely everything will go swimmingly, but few people are genuinely mature. Instead of trying to be friends with your ex, be friendly towards them. If you see them in the street, wave, smile and pretend you found the cat meme they posted on Facebook. Then get home to your lover and revel in the fact you have progressed to better things.- Yolisa MkeleYESIn Shall We Dance, Susan Sarandon delivers a memorable speech about relationships. The crux of it is that the people we are close to and spend time with are witnesses to our lives. The speech resonated with me last week when I looked up an ex-boyfriend. Although our relationship did not end well, we spent five years together - a substantial part of our 20s - and after the pain on both sides had subsided, we decided that what we had shared was too important to throw away. I am close to most of the people with whom I've had relationships and each time I meet one of them it is like rereading a chapter in my life.- Andrea Nagel..