'Players', put all your cards on the table

30 July 2015 - 02:03 By Leonie Wagner

Jamaican-born model Stevel Marc has conquered the catwalk, magazine covers and television. Now, having relocated to Johannesburg, he is trying his luck at writing. His provocatively honest book The Refined Player: Sex, Lies and Dates is a colourful mash-up that combines elements of a feminist self-help book and an autobiography.The book, which will be launched in August, to coincide with Women's Month, is a memoir of Marc's life and the lessons he has learned as a model.Speaking to The Times, Marc explained that, despite having never thought of himself as an author, many women had encouraged him to write a book about how guys should treat women."By the time I was 25 years old, someone asked me how many women I'd slept with. At that point it was 180. That was a turning point," he said.Marc has done campaigns for Coca-Cola, Revlon, Jet, Mr Price, FHM magazine, Elle magazine, GQ, and Wanted. He starred in the local film Of Good Report, a controversial account of a high school teacher who has an obsessive affair with a pupil. His next role will be in the South African feature film Happiness is a Four Letter Word.Although the book was directed at men, he said it would be beneficial for women because it encouraged them to expect more from men.His emphasis is on complete honesty, even if it means saying: "Let's leave and have sex" on the first date.He said: "This book will create good players, refined players. I'm saying: 'Be single, live your life, but be honest'."Refined players are the men and women who know exactly who they are and where they are, and are comfortable with it."Know when to stay and when to walk away;It's great to know how to use your penis, but it's an auxiliary, not your character;If you're not getting what you want, be honest about it;As a man, make sure your woman doesn't feel like she's wasting her nakedness;If you're on a date and you want to have sex, just say so. That way when you're at the movies tomorrow, it's because she genuinely wants to be there;If you're dating, you only need to be a sexual one-stop shop, and not an emotional one. In too many relationships people expect their partners to give them everything emotionally and this is not possible...

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