Nothing women hate more than lazy men

09 November 2015 - 02:03 By Guy Kelly, ©The Sunday Telegraph

When deciding if a new relationship has the potential to go the distance, most people know which pet hates to watch out for, but not all admit them. A series of new studies conducted by five universities around the world claims to have revealed the qualities that make or break a new romance.The biggest deal-breaker for men was a "dishevelled or unclean appearance" - something 63% of those surveyed were sensitive to - while 72% of women saw laziness as the most unappealing trait.Another high-scoring factor was neediness.Using data from more than 5500 singletons between the ages of 21 and 76, psychologists from Australia, the US and Singapore have published Relationship Dealbreakers: Traits People Avoid in Potential Mates, identifying what turns people off, and how picky they are.The study found that women are generally pickier than men, placing a greater emphasis on deal-breakers overall and listing more negative traits they deplore in potential partners."Women are likely to be more selective about their relationship partners to avoid costly impregnation by low-quality mates, [so they] should perceive more - or have lower tolerance for - deal-breakers," the study says.Men are more likely than women to cite "having kids", "living too far away" and "low sex drive" as problems, thereby showing a tendency towards a lack of commitment. Those characteristics "may reflect men's greater concerns about resource investment in partners (and their families) and men's somewhat higher interest in casual sex", says the report.Women enjoy casual sex too, the studies found, but value quality over quantity: one of the surveys revealed women were far more likely to report bad sex as a deal-breaker than men, especially in a short-term relationship.In general, scientists found it wise to employ deal-breakers as a means of sorting the wheat from the chaff. "It's likely that [they] function as efficient, cost-sensitive cognitive mechanisms designed to cull inappropriate potential partners, allowing mating preferences to operate within a reduced target of desirable mates."Top 15 relationship deal-breakersAlready has childrenDoesn't want childrenBluntnessToo quietTalks too muchStubbornLow sex driveToo much TV/gamingLacks self-confidenceBad sexLives more than three hours awayLacks sense of humourToo needyLazinessDishevelled appearance..

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