For most people mourning is solemn and characterised by sadness and dignity. Recently, though this, process has taken an unusual turn, thanks to social media. Trending "funeral selfies" and videos posted on social media platforms are disturbing and shocking.Hashtags such as #Graveyard #Funeral #FuneralVibes have all been trending. This has left us wondering, where do we draw the line? Is it right for young people to post videos of themselves twerking at the graveyard, or funeral selfies?On photo-sharing site Instagram, a search for #Graveyard yielded 546838 posts, #Funeral had 274816 posts and #FuneralVibes had 1065 posts.Recently we were surprised by a young girl who candidly documented her father's entire funeral through selfies on social media. From the doek that culture requires her to wear, to her puffy eyes, the whole mourning process was laid bare. Having gone through the trauma of losing our own fathers, this carefree display made us wonder if social media has made us so narcissistic that we have lost all respect for life's most intimate moments.Funeral selfies https://t.co/u61i5uZ7dg— Times LIVE (@TimesLIVE) November 23, 2015SelfiesGrowing up we knew that people had "after tears" as part of celebrating that person's life. But this was done by neighbours or friends and not relatives. The family was in mourning.But one could argue that this social media documentation is no different from taping videos of funerals, usually organised by the family.The counter argument is that the two are different as the video is taken by someone hired to document the entire funeral, including eulogies.The problem with funeral selfies is that they shift the attention from the deceased to the "look how cute I am" individual.Is the world supposed to sympathise with you by liking your selfies, which, to us seem as if we're "liking" the fact that your loved one is dead?Is getting the most "likes" on social media more important than honouring our dead? Have we forgotten how to live normal lives outside of social media ?The disconnect with what's real is staggering. Instead of mourning we ask someone to take a picture, or we take it ourselves.Recently the people's favourite, Sports Minister Fikile Mbalula, posted a photo by the graveside. His #FuneralService had 16371 likes. So, it's not just the ordinary person who has succumbed to the temptation.This phenomenon is also not uniquely South African. It's everywhere. Deniseltl21 from Malaysia stands out. She posted on Instagram using the hashtag #FuneralService a picture of an open casket of a relative.One800Slum from Canada put up a selfie with a friend looking posh next to a casket. One person was so disturbed by the picture they left a comment slamming the two for "voguing".There is no denying that social media has infiltrated every aspect of our lives. We go out to dinner and the first thing we do is post a picture of the food. We take bathroom selfies just to show off.But social media has its merits too. It has broken down communication barriers. It has revolutionised the way we interact at the click of a button.While this is well and good, are we so narcissistic, or really okay with each and every boundary being broken?Have we lost our sense of morality and respect as a result? At what point do we say "this has gone too far - no more".We have witnessed a lot of positive changes in the world. However, we don't believe that culture and traditions should be sacrificed . We believe social media have blurred the lines between what is real and unreal.As much as we know people have different personalities, we believe your social media activities could damage your brand. After all, social media is the first place a potential employer will look to get an idea of who you are.Granted, it's your page, but the whole point of social media is to be social and interact with other people. We also don't think you want the world to know you as the #FuneralVibes person - someone who celebrates instead of mourns a loved one...