Sharons all in the family

24 June 2016 - 10:13 By KATHARINE CHILD

For 38 years Durban North resident Sharon Rein didn't know she had another sister - and for the next 18 years she didn't know where she was. At one point she wondered if her mom's deathbed confession about giving up one of her children for adoption was even true.In a movie-like ending, this week Rein flew to Canada to meet her biological sister - also named Sharon by her adoptive parents.In 1998 when Rein's mother Hazel Barker was dying of lung cancer she confessed that she had given up her third-born child for adoption. A social worker had advised her and her husband to do so because of severe financial difficulties. It was 1960 and Barker had given birth to three children in three consecutive years.Rein was "flabbergasted" at the news as there had never been any indication of another child in the family.Rein thinks her "very private" mother made the deathbed confession because she always wondered if putting her child up for adoption was the best decision."She wondered if her daughter was happy and had a good life."In the following years, Rein tried to find her sister but the children's home and welfare agency had no information on who adopted her. Whenever Rein met someone who said: "I know someone who looks just like you" she would say:,"Tell me more." Rein even put ads in You magazine hopingher sister would read them in a doctor's waiting room one day.Unknown to Rein, her sister Sharon Dennis moved to Canada in 1994. She used a South African Facebook group called Baby Come Home, run by amateur genealogists, to help find her sister.This was the first time Dennis had looked for her biological family. Armed with her father's name, the amateur genealogists got to work. Within three weeks, they had a name for Dennis. In March she called Rein and they caught up over a cross-Pacific cup of tea.The pair met this week.Canadian media reported that Rein said at the airport: "You're just like me!"Speaking to The Times from Canada, Rein said the two Sharons had many similarities. They like the same style of clothes and have the same relaxed cheerful personality. Both Sharons met their husbands by age 17 and got married young.Rein said: "We might have crossed paths as children because we both grew up in Cape Town."..

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