Feeling overexposed

My son's girlfriend walked naked in our house, believing she was alone. I saw her. I can't get her image out of my mind and dream about her. I feel guilty

SHRINK RAP

THE instinctive brain responds to stimuli on a purely biological level.

Being sexually attracted to people is perfectly natural. In order to avoid socially and morally unacceptable sexual practices, almost all societies institute incest taboos and codes of sexual conduct.

But there are many people who cross the boundaries of acceptable behaviour. For example, take the number of indiscretions between people who work closely or travel together.

Affection or love, especially when combined with sexual attraction is often expressed physically. Therefore, even best friends and extended family members can sometimes end up crossing the line.

You cannot help a reaction that occurs on an instinctual level, not constrained by values and rules. But you are accountable for how you react.

The fact that you feel uncomfortable is testimony to the person you prefer to be. You need to judge yourself on your conscious, considered reaction.

Remember that boundaries of modesty, discretion, tact and respect provide necessary safeguards for people, regardless of how unimpeachable (no reference to any actual impeachment intended) they consider themselves to be. - Leonard Carr

SUPERNANNY

IF SHE is aware of you seeing her, then you need to talk to her and your son together. Make light of the fact that you saw her , acknowledging to both of them that it was a chance happening. Tell them what you value about their relationship and your parental relationship with them.

If she did not see you, then I would find a trustworthy male friend, and talk it through with him by verbalising the story, owning it for yourself - a chance happening that you would not act on.

The longer you keep your thoughts to yourself, the bigger an issue it will become in your mind. - Stephanie Dawson-Cosser