Home Invasion:A Tale of Two Takeaways

19 May 2013 - 03:36 By Gus Silber

We had just come back from the Saturday evening takeaway run - chicken nuggets and fries from McDonald's; lunchbox combo, no prawns, from Sakura Sushi - and I had pressed the button on the blue remote to Open Sesame the gate. I drove in. The garage door opened. I parked and cut the engine.

I could hear that familiar, comforting sound of the suburbs: the gate rattling shut on its rails, the filaments of the electric fence quivering. Then, another sound. Footfalls on face brick. Loud, heavy.

I half-turned to see a solid force charging towards me, back-lit by the glow of the security lamps, and the man was standing by my side in the combat position, feet planted like an oak tree, both hands outstretched on the grip of a gun. A 9mm, pointed at my head.

For pretty much all of my life I have been a Johannesburger. Often, waiting for the robots to change, I have fantasised about what I would do in these scenarios. I would turn in the driver's seat, slowly, as advised. I would put my hands in the air. I would make no sudden, rash movements.

Then - blam - I would elbow the car door against my attacker, knocking him off balance, and I would catch his flying gun and stand over him, because I would not let him rob me of my property. Then the lights always blink to green and I blend in with the traffic.

"Get out, get out, get out," the man was saying. Stockily built, round face, smart casual. "Phones. Where are your phones? Lie down. Get up. Don't look at me."

From the corner of my eye, I saw a white SUV pulling up outside my house, waiting. Then the other guy: leaner, skinny blue denims, black sneakers, holding a sawn-off shotgun and aiming it at my midsection.

The weapon looked almost too clean to me, its barrels lovingly polished, and I wondered for a moment if it was real, or something picked up off the shelf at China City.

I'm going to fast-forward through the next part. The men pushed us down the corridor and into the bedroom, and they made us lie down and they robbed us.

Over and over, between the threats and the swearing and the feet pushed down on heads: "We're not going to hurt you." So here we are, a few days later, unhurt. Survivors.

The men who stormed our house that night robbed us of things, and private space, and minutes that seemed like hours, and a quiet Saturday night at home, dining on sushi and McDonald's. They robbed us of peace of mind and comfort and security.

But I will not let them rob me of the way I feel about this place. I will not let this be my metaphor.

At some point in the evening I found myself stumbling down a side street in the township of Alexandra, barefoot, my neighbour's iPhone in my hand, tracking a little green dot to the possible location of my stolen goods. Then the signal disappeared, like a flame strangled on a wick.

A policeman with an assault rifle, standing in a doorway, called me over and asked if I recognised anyone. I strolled into someone's home, into their private space. But all I saw was people sitting in their lounge, calmly, watching television and having supper.

I felt more than ever the duality of our society, the two worlds we live in and the things in those worlds that we have in common. For one thing, our destiny.

I have learnt, over the last few days, that we are a circle, a community, a constellation of individuals who, in some way, depend on and care about each other. A social network.

The other day, a guy named Wayne, whom I have never even met, sent his mother around - his mother - to drop off a backpack containing a MacBook Pro for me to use.

"What can you do?" she said, throwing her hands in the air. "What can you do?" And then: "You're alive. Baruch HaShem." Thank the Lord.

Later in the day, Louise, from the PTA, came around with butternut soup and a chicken supper. Patty popped by on her way to yoga with Lebanese bread and a big tub of hummus. Her car stood idling in exactly the same spot where the getaway driver had idled his SUV a couple of nights before.

The police, uniformed and plain clothes, have been uniformly professional and courteous and determined, fighting the good fight with their heavy caseloads and their sheaves of paperwork.

The volunteer counsellor, Michelle, in her reflective yellow vest, came over late at night to comfort my daughters and then came back the next day to find out if they felt OK to go and see Justin Bieber.

On Twitter, I have been overwhelmed by wishes for our safety and security and offers of iPhones and iPads and iMacs for me to loan, just because I tweeted on the night that all my Apple goods were gone.

I have heard stories. War stories. Stories of other home invasions, and break-ins, and muggings, and violations. They all say the same thing: "You are not alone."

A journalist asked me: "What thoughts went through your mind when you saw the guy pointing the gun at your head?" I laughed at the question, because I have asked it so often as a journalist myself. Finally, I know the answer. Nothing goes through your mind.

Between fight and flight there lies another response: numb, unblinking incomprehension. Oddly, I didn't feel fear when I saw the gun, which is not to say I felt fearless. I just felt, for a frozen moment ... nothing.

I have felt and thought a lot of things since then, and one thing that keeps going through my mind is something my friend Denis Beckett once wrote, in one of those pieces we need every now and again to remind us of our reasons for being here.

"For every guy who holds up a gun," wrote Denis, "there are 99 who hold out a hand of friendship." So this now is my mantra. This is my takeaway. I think it has to be. Otherwise, the man with the gun has won.