Sex Talk

Does wanting to try 'pegging' mean I'm gay?

Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng answers your sex questions

11 June 2017 - 02:00 By Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng

Q. I am a heterosexual man fascinated by the idea of 'pegging' [anal penetration of a man by a woman wearing a strap-on]. Does this say anything about my sexuality?

"Keep special toys and dildos exclusively for anal play; never use these for vaginal penetration," says Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng.
"Keep special toys and dildos exclusively for anal play; never use these for vaginal penetration," says Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng.
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A. Sexual fantasies and preferences should not be confused with gender identity. How a person finds gratification during sex does not alter who they are or who they are physically attracted to.

The pleasure from anal sex can come from penetration alone, through stimulation of the prostate and anus, or it can be accompanied by stimulation of the penis and testicles by masturbation, leading to orgasm and ejaculation.

More and more people are open to trying new sexual play, exploring their bodies and experimenting.

Much of the research into anal play between heterosexual couples does not distinguish between penetration and non-penetration, nor does it state who might be penetrated with what.

There has been a lot more public talk about this type of sexual stimulation in recent years, but we do not know whether that means it is gaining in popularity or whether people are just more comfortable speaking about it.

Pegging is but one of many types of sexual play and can also accompany fantasy for one or both partners.

Here are some tips for anyone choosing to participate in anal play:

Communication: You have to give and take feedback from your partner during anal play. Consent for all sexual activity is non-negotiable.

Lubrication: Always apply generously because the anus does not have natural lubrication.

Health/hygiene: Keep special toys and dildos exclusively for anal play; never use these for vaginal penetration.

The anus has many nerve endings. If you want to explore but are not yet comfortable with the idea of penetration, start with non-penetrative anal play to see how that feels.

Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng (MBChB), sexual and reproductive health practice, DISA Clinic, 011-886-2286, visit safersex.co.za.

 

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