Sex Talk

Is masturbating good for me?

Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng answers your sex questions

10 February 2019 - 00:00
Masturbation can improve your self-esteem and body image.
Masturbation can improve your self-esteem and body image.
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Q: Please give me some information about masturbation. I want to try it out.

A: Many people masturbate, they may not talk about it, but masturbation is common for people of all genders, sexualities and ages.

Masturbation is normal, and self-play is one of the safest ways of experiencing sexual pleasure. In young adults, it can be an affirming experience that can positively impact their decisions to delay sexual penetration with sexual partners.

Teenagers explore their bodies and they may realise much sooner than we expect that touching their genitals feels good. There are many reasons why people engage in self-play and it's normal to be in a sexual relationship and still enjoy time alone for masturbation.

Those who want to understand their body better, explore what feels good and to share that with their partner during sex to increase mutual satisfaction. Self-play or masturbation is a personal experience and the decision to do it should be without pressure.

It's normal to be in a sexual relationship and still enjoy time alone for masturbation

Masturbation can strengthen muscle tone in your pelvic and anal areas, relieve menstrual cramps and muscle tension, improve your self-esteem and body image.

Learning how your body reacts to certain stimulation, pressure and intensity is a great way to have orgasms on your own. The confidence that comes with being comfortable with sex and your body makes talking to your partner about prevention methods for sexually transmitted disease and pregnancy easier.

Couple masturbation can also be rewarding and can be a part of foreplay. Introducing sex toys and kink to your satisfaction and many fantasies can be fulfilled by self-play.

• Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng (MBChB), sexual and reproductive health practice, Disa Clinic, safersex.co.za.

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