It is unlawful to use pressure or threaten someone into saying yes. You can't give consent if you're drunk, on a drug high, or passed out. We should all expect that consent can be denied and people can change their mind even after they say yes.
Even if you are on a date with someone new, or the person has bought you gifts, alcohol or helped you in any way, and even if you're naked in bed, you should not feel pressure to say yes.
Asking for consent is mandatory and matters because it makes it clear that person is in agreement to do the same thing you are.
• Dr Tlaleng Mofokeng (MBChB), sexual and reproductive health practice, Disa Clinic, safersex.co.za.
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