Lerato Mvelase channels personal pain in new breakup reality show

Lerato Mvelase is hosting a new 'break up' show but says it's more about closure and love in the future

14 December 2018 - 09:00 By Chrizelda Kekana
Actress-turned-musician Lerato Mvelase is the host of a new show called Seng'khathele.
Actress-turned-musician Lerato Mvelase is the host of a new show called Seng'khathele.
Image: Instagram/Lerato Mvelase

There's a new "dating" reality show in town, but this one isn't about achieving your crush or the lovey-dovey side of love. Instead it's about that heartbreaking moment when the love is over, and Lerato Mvelase says she felt that she was just the right person to host it.

Lerato walked out of her relationship with her actor baby daddy Siyabonga Radebe last year and told TshisaLIVE that she felt that her own story made her the perfect fit for the show.

"What got me interested in the show was the idea of me having to share myself and my story with the guest from the show. To share in part words of wisdom, in part words of experience and encouragement to both parties. To be human with them, knowing that I am touching their lives."

The new show called, Seng’Khathele, sees actress Lerato help couples who are seeking closure and allows them to unpack all the reasons that have bought them to this point of wanting to end the relationship, amicably.

Lerato said the fact that there was no general structure or school of thought as to how things should be when people break up, made it interesting that all solutions have to be tailor made to suit the situation presented.

She said most of the people in the show have gone through a "rough patch" for longer than they should but don't know how life will continue once they leave.

That's where she and her experience come in.

"For me, I cried. I accepted and acknowledged my pain. I spoke about my pain and then I got to a point where all that mattered was 'what do I want?' and 'what makes me happy'"

Lerato also explained that one of the hardest things for the couples on the show to understand was the fact that at times, they are not going to get the closure they feel they want.

"The thing with closure is, it depends on what you expect from the other person. Some people want answers to questions they've asked themselves, like 'why did you do this to me?' but sometimes as an adult, you have to be ready to not get an answer." 

Her advice so far? Closure is a personal choice that one can find from within. At least that is how she found it.

"Some people won't give you an answer and you can't walk around waiting for someone to say the things that you think you need to hear to heal. You have to find it within you and decide that you are done with the relationship, so you can walk away with no strings still attached."

Seng’Khathele will air on Mzansi in January 2019.