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Ayanda Borotho: Girls must stop seeing marriage as the ultimate accomplishment

22 November 2019 - 14:00 By Masego Seemela
Actress Ayanda Borotho advises young girls that marriage isn't the ultimate accomplishment.
Actress Ayanda Borotho advises young girls that marriage isn't the ultimate accomplishment.
Image: Instagram/Ayanda Borotho

Ayanda Borotho is all about “straight talk”, and this time she's dropping wisdom to young women about marriage, saying it should not be the ultimate accomplishment in their lives.

The Isibaya actress believes marriage shouldn't make people feel "imprisoned", but should be more of a safe and liberating space in which people grow to be the best version of themselves.

Speaking to Move! magazine, Ayanda said: “What I know for sure is that marriage shouldn’t be bondage. Marriage should be a safe and liberating space where people grow to be their best version while honouring each other.”

The actress said too often marriage is what women aspire to, but once they get married they stop growing.

“The problem is that there are changes mentally and emotionally, and because you’re told that you’ve arrived, you suppress your growth.”

Just like her character on Isibaya, Phumelele MaDlamani, Ayanda has been on a journey of self-discovery.

She has shared many of the lessons she learnt while on her journey in her book Unbecoming to Become.

Ayanda previously shared on Instagram that playing Phumelele showed her how no-one was immune to systemic patriarchy in society.

“This character Phumelele taught me so much in the seven years of portraying her. None of us are immune to systemic patriarchy in our society. I drew many parallels from her and my own life when I wrote about the stage in every woman's life before marriage and when we are in the marriage.”

The actress said although patriarchy is seen in many women's lives, marriage should not be enslavement of any kind.