Unathi Nkayi recounts ‘rapey’ experience as country battles GBV

“People who openly seek instant sexual validation are more often than not carrying a sexual trauma themselves. If this is you, seek help,” Unathi said

19 June 2020 - 13:00
By Chrizelda Kekana
Unathi Nkayi talked about some disturbing #rapey comments she's heard.
Image: Gallo Images / Oupa Bopape Unathi Nkayi talked about some disturbing #rapey comments she's heard.

As SA continues to fight against the scourge of gender-based violence, famous faces such as Unathi Nkayi are on a mission to educate men about why their insensitive or violating behaviour is wrong. 

Unathi took to Instagram to call out an unnamed man who allegedly violated her earlier this week while she was on air. The man allegedly video called Unathi, only to shove his genitals in her face.

I’m a woman and I repeatedly told him I hate video calls. Video calls when he is clothed. He then slaps his dick in my face. Don't do this to yourself. I’ve kept quiet coz I thought you were genuinely listening to my sisters. People who openly seek instant sexual validation are more often than not carrying a sexual trauma themselves. If this is you, seek help,” Unathi said in her comments.

Women flooded her comments section recounting their personal experiences with similar “rapey” actions and commentary. Among the hundreds of women were fellow female media personalities Zizo Tshwete and Candice Modiselle, who have both spoken out against GBV in the past.

The other day I posted a thread about the many faces of sexual coercion as assault, which was seemingly 'controversial'. Though I wasn’t particularly surprised by the defensiveness many of the replies came with. I was appalled at the flood of responses where men were justifying their rapey ways, entitlement to women’s bodies and complete disregard for consent. There is so much learning and unlearning to be done and it starts with these kinds of conversations. Thank you for sharing,” Candice said.

First of all he isn’t a gentleman. Let’s agree on that. Your first no should be enough. Why are there some men who believe that they will eventually wear you down and that you will change your no to a yes? Then to say he wants to go to coffee to make it up to you - there are a few really great therapists that we can recommend to this guy because he evidently needs help. This unsettled me so much because what if next time you don’t have physical distance from him?” Zizo commented on the video.

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