'A lot of us are hurting, a lot of us are empty' — Phelo Bala on being 'misunderstood'
Phelo Bala is often labelled the wild card or black sheep of the family by viewers who have had a front-row seat of the dynamics on the reality TV show The Bala Family.
Speaking to TshisaLIVE, the reality TV star said though painful situations can be challenging, it's important to learn from them. He said being a rebel can lead to drama and anything can happen at any time.
He explained that people may drink to find comfort in situations they don't see, but it's not on purpose. “Ultimately, we all seek happiness and peace, and there are different ways to deal with our emotions,” he said.
“Who is going out there looking to be sad? Who's going out there looking for attention? What is this attention that they want and where did that person lack it? Some people do it behind closed doors, some people are out there, a lot of us are hurting, a lot of us are empty, sad and masked and there are different ways to how people deal with it”
Phelo said he watched the reality show at the same time as viewers, and realised, as people brought up his speech, that he sometimes becomes inaudible.
“A lot of the times when I'm asked a question and I don't want to talk about it, my body immediately does this thing. We can say it's medical, because it's a psychological thing because for me it's a reaction.
“If I don't want to speak about something I tend to clench my teeth, and also most of the times when I want to speak I will be shut down. I immediately get tired of explaining myself. All that stuff sometimes becomes really difficult and you don't realise the effect it has on you.”
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