Of all the clichés hurled about after the demise of a Hollywood marriage there's one that always baffles me: "And it looked so perfect from the outside ..." Perfect? It looked ghastly from the outside. Like what it probably was: a marriage in its private but protracted death throes.Maybe I'm wrong, and Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie's 12-year relationship was all cosy Friday-night takeaways, domestic pranks, and engaged date-night humanitarian discussions, right up until September 15 (their official separation date, according to court documents).We don't know what went on inside their lavish homes - from East Hollywood and Santa Barbara to that gorgeous chateau in Provence - but I know a woman who does.story_article_left1The first time I came across Laura Wasser - also known as the "Disso Queen", thanks to her skill in dissolving marriages - it was at a gun control benefit dinner in Beverly Hills. She was leaning on a grand piano in a mesh Stella McCartney "illusion" dress, being serenaded by Stevie Wonder ("Laura's seen me through a few tricky situations," the twice-married singer laughingly admitted).A partner at LA law firm Wasser, Copperman & Mandles (co-founded by her father, Dennis, another of Hollywood's best-known divorce lawyers, in 1976), she commands a $25,000 (about R343,000) retainer atop her $850-an-hour rates and, according to Bloomberg, "rarely represents people who have less than $10-million".Fresh from representing Johnny Depp in his unconscious uncoupling from Amber Heard, she's a firm feature not just in the Hollywood Reporter's "100 Power Lawyers", but in the profile pages of Vogue and Vanity Fair.Although she may look more like one of her A-list clients than their counsel, according to one fellow lawyer, "there's nothing pretty about having Laura sitting on the other side of the mediation table to you"."Irreconcilable differences" may have been the reason Jolie, 41, gave for instigating the split - but if that were a real reason we'd all be single.Just because these two improbably beautiful beings made it beyond the 10-year mark (they only married in 2014, but that's still centuries ago, in mere mortal terms, and far longer than anyone gave them when they fell in love on the set of Mr & Mrs Smith in 2004), in that time overcoming personal hurdles - like Jolie's bravely borne cancer scares and surgeries - it doesn't mean that their divorce will be any less acrimonious.I've glimpsed inside enough show-business relationships to know that they've got more, not less, to contend with than the rest of us.block_quotes_start Divorce is the great equaliser you can hack off or add on several zeros to the income or the size of the estate but in the end everybody has the same anxiety, sadness and anger when a marriage ends block_quotes_endYes, they "have everything", but that's only a thousand more things to argue over. Because success breeds tension, money breeds superficiality and beauty breeds insecurity.Added to which, actors, let's not forget, are in a class of their own: they pretend to be other people for a living, they have to be self-involved to a startling degree in order to make it, and are inveterate thrill-seekers - which makes them great friends but lousy spouses.With the employment of private investigators de rigueur in flailing Hollywood marriages, couples often using those last few months or years together to amass legal ammunition against each other (some even writing "divorce diaries" detailing their spouses' marital aberrations), and the intense public interest, it would be a miracle if Pitt and Jolie were able to keep their divorce quick and clean.Given that Jolie has gone back to Wasser, however, who represented her during her divorce from Billy Bob Thornton, this looks likely to be what the actress wants.Although an indomitable force in the courtroom - her gilded client list reads like the Hollywood Walk of Fame: Maria Shriver, Heidi Klum, three Kardashians (Kim, Khloe and their mother, Kris Jenner), Ashton Kutcher, Ryan Reynolds, Christina Aguilera and Mariah Carey -Wasser is the most moral, upbeat divorce lawyer I've ever come across.mini_story_image_vright1"'It's all good' has always been my maxim," she assured me when I interviewed her three years ago, upon publication of her book, It Doesn't Have To Be That Way: How to Divorce Without Destroying Your Family or Bankrupting Yourself."Not great, obviously, because you're getting a divorce. But divorce today can be if not almost-good, then at least good enough to keep yourself, your sanity, your wallet and your dignity intact - and your children safe and healthy."Surely even the most bitter and covetous among us would want this for Pitt, Jolie and those six children?"Divorce is the great equaliser," she said. "You can hack off or add on several zeros to the income or the size of the estate but in the end everybody has the same anxiety, sadness and anger when a marriage ends. Whether it's 'Who is going to walk the red carpet with me at the Oscars?' or 'Who is going to go to the office Christmas party with me and Xerox their face next to mine?' - the fears are the same."Her parents divorced when she was 16."They split at a time when they didn't hate each other yet," she told me. "They knew when to call it quits. And that meant that when I got married they were both there to walk me down the aisle."I supposed, with all that personal and professional expertise, Wasser would be the one woman who would have been able to circumvent the marital pitfalls that trip up her clients, but Hollywood's top divorce lawyer is herself divorced (she represented herself in her very first case)."Oh, I only know about divorce," she explained, wryly. "I don't know how to stay married."- ©The Daily Telegraph, London..