Gender offender

17 October 2011 - 02:10 By Shrink Rap and Supernanny
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My husband enjoyed a radio host's recent sexist remark. I'm now doubting him. What should I do?

SHRINK RAP

YOU seem surprised about your husband's attitude, as if it's a new discovery that you have made. This could mean that he is not being entirely serious, or does not understand the sensitivity of the issue.

This presents you with the opportunity to express your feelings to him and give him a deeper appreciation of what is important to you. - Shrink Rap

SUPERNANNY

IF SOMEONE else's comment makes you feel degraded, you need to look at what is behind the reaction and, most importantly, go back to the source to see if your reaction is justified. It is important to read the comment in context.

I would suggest you take a look at the transcript of the interview.

Search yourself for why you feel so offended, and also have your husband explain what aspect of the comment he is in agreement with and why.

Then turn your thoughts to who you are and what makes your life worthwhile so that when you hear such comments, you do not take it so personally.

As for your husband, I would ask him to share what he values about you specifically.

Then consider whether he is really a sexist or not. - Stephanie Dawson-Cosser

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