'I should have kissed and warmed her hands' - Zoleka Mandela on her late daughter

12 June 2017 - 13:52 By TshisaLIVE
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Zoleka Mandela reflects on the death of her daughter.
Zoleka Mandela reflects on the death of her daughter.
Image: Picture: SIMPHIWE NKWALI

Zoleka Mandela has penned a heart-wrenching tribute in honour of her daughter, Zenani who died in a car accident in 2010.

The socialite and author shared a picture of Zenani that was taken just days before her death and reflected on the pain she feels.

Zoleka was taken back to the day of Zenani's  funeral and the emotions she felt.

"I kept thinking about whether she was in pain and if she felt anything. How she must have been so terrified sitting in that back seat by herself without me to hold her as she took her last breath or to wipe her tears for a change," she said.

Zoleka described how they had to have a closed casket at Zenani's funeral because of the injuries she sustained in the car crash.

She added that she has memories of someone asking her if she wanted to hold Zenani's hands and she was scared to at the time.

However, looking back Zoleka feels pain for "not being there".

"I should have kissed and warmed her hands at the mortuary and not the glass that separated us. She probably felt alone and needed me to hold her just one last time," she said.

Zoleka said she needed forgiveness for not being a better mother to Zenani.  "I need forgiveness for not being a better mother to her, especially the one time she really needed me the most ... peace in Heaven, baby."

Zenani Mandela, who is the great granddaughter of ANC stelwart Nelson Mandela, died in a car crash while returning home from the pre-tournament concert that was held the night before the 2010 Soccer World Cup opening.

I took this picture of my baby in May 2010, she passed on a month after - 2dys after her 13th birthday. I remember laughing with her about throwing up gang signs with her hands in all her pictures like her uncles or pouting in them just like me. She had such beautiful hands, I remember how many times she used them to wipe my tears. She always knew when I was crying when I was pretending I wasn't, so I would cry even more when she would notice. Today pains my soul, it's the anniversary of her tragic passing ... It takes me back to the time I sat in a room with her alone at the Kupane Funeral home just before we laid her to rest. Her head was covered due to the injuries she sustained to her face, we had to have a closed casket funeral. In that early morning, a clear glass in the top half of the casket I chose for her revealed the Satin bag they used to cover her face. Someone walked in and asked if I would like to hold her hands, scared I was going to remove the bag to see the injuries my family prevented me from seeing ... I told him that he shouldn't expose her hands that held a Rosary. It didn't matter how many times I wiped my tears off the glass placed over her face, I kept thinking about all the times she said she knew she wasn't my favourite child, all the times I left her crying, weather she was in pain and if she felt anything, how she must have been so terrified sitting in that back seat by herself without me to hold her as she took her last breath or to wipe her tears for a change and to tell her that everything was going to be okay even if I didn't believe it at the time ... because I am her mother and I'm supposed to protect her with my life. I should have kissed and warmed her hands at the mortuary and not the glass that separated us, she probably felt alone and needed me to hold her just one last time. I'm so selfish, writing these words and crying because I'm the one hurting and wanting her to wipe my tears with her hands again like she used to. I need forgiveness for not being a better mother to her, especially the one time she really needed me the most ... 💔 Peace in Heaven, baby ... #MyDaughter #MyBestFriend #ZenaniMandela #ZeniWeniBeni

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