Zoleka Mandela reflects on daughter’s death in car crash

02 March 2020 - 06:00 By Masego Seemela
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Zoleka Mandela is reflecting on her daughter's tragic accident.
Zoleka Mandela is reflecting on her daughter's tragic accident.
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It's been 10 years since Zoleka Mandela's 13-year-old daughter Zenani was tragically killed in a car accident, and the star is using her pain to educate on the effects of drunken driving and the importance of road safety.

Speaking to Egypt Today, Zoleka blamed influencers for not doing enough to advise on the importance of adhering to road safety measures across the continent.

Being at the forefront of worldwide campaigns, Zoleka explained that she called on African leaders to listen to stories of those who become victims of road accidents, urging the need for children's safety on their journey to school.

“My grandparents fought against the status quo for justice and equality, and I hope, through the Mandela name, I will never stop fighting for our children everywhere around the world.”

Although she may appear stronger now with a mission at hand, in 2018 Zoleka opened up about suffering from depression.

In a heartfelt Instagram post, Zoleka bared her soul on how she had been struggling with her emotions.

“I thought I could hold in all the sadness until it all goes away or replace it with something else, I’ve felt myself getting more and more depressed every day.

“It’s never an easy emotion to wear or disclose but in my weakness, I’ve always found strength in asking for help even if I have always struggled to ask for it because I don’t always know how to or because I do fear losing control.”

She, however, explained that she was feeling more determined to overcome her feelings of hopelessness and self-blame.

“Not just for my husband and my five children but for me too because despite everything else, I am still worthy and deserving of life.”

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I thought I could hold in all the sadness until it all goes away or replace it with something else, I’ve felt myself getting more and more depressed everyday. It’s never an easy emotion to wear or disclose but in my weakness I’ve always found strength in asking for help even if I have always struggled to ask for it because I don’t always know how to or because I do fear losing control. I thought I could come back to social media after a few days and pretend that these past few weeks haven’t scared me into silence, into finding it difficult to shower, to be a wife, to be okay, to get out of bed, to leave the house, to stop crying, to be mom or to breathe. I’ve found that even in my own vulnerability, speaking out has actually always helped me. We feel less alone when we know of each other’s pain and darkness and I have learned that you can’t do secrets and lies when you’re clean and sober and wanting to stay that way. I’m drowning and I have been feeling numb and empty, it’s all consuming and heavy - sometimes I don’t always want to face the very things I know that I should. I know I often recreate unhealthy patterns I’ve used in order for me to deal with the ebbs of my life and although being back in therapy after 8yrs has felt like way too much effort and work for me, it’s teaching me that I am probably where I need to be right now, to start making more difficult but positive changes in my life. There’s so much healing to look forward to, so much healing, freedom and hope that comes with getting the help I’ve been avoiding for so many years. I think what I’m wanting to say is ... I’m depressed and maybe if I’m more honest about these emotions that are representative of the rawness of my reality, the silence won’t be bigger than I am, that I realize that what is going to destroy me is not how I have been feeling but how I’m always running away from experiences in my life I have not shared on social media. Today feels better though, I’m feeling more determined to overcome these feelings of hopelessness and self-blame and not just for my husband and my five children but for me too, because despite everything else, I am still worthy and deserving of LIFE ...

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