'If my husband would allow me to have a second husband, I think I would' — Gogo Skhotheni on polyandry

Tumi Motsoeneng, popularly known as Gogo Skhotheni, says she won't pursue a polyandrous marriage unless she gets the green light from her partner. 

Appearing on Moja Love’s Dlozi Lam and Mzansi Magic’s iZangoma Zodumo, Gogo Skhotheni caused an uproar on social media when she revealed she had taken a second husband after her ancestors instructed her to do so. 

During her recent sit-down on Nkululeko n Cultr, however, Gogo Skhotheni said while she liked the idea of having more than one partner, her husband did not approve of it.

“It was a fun experience. If my husband would allow me to have a second husband, I think I would. It was fun seeing him get angry because I hardly do anything to my husband. My husband and I have never fought about mjolo (dating); we fight about serious stuff. So seeing him when I approached him about a second husband with him getting angry was a turn-on,” she said. 

“It would be a nice experience, but no, there's no second husband.”

On the reality show, viewers saw her husband and mother not understanding her decision to take a second husband, but she was adamant.

“I feel like my mom, she felt embarrassed as my mother. She's not buying it till this day. I've never disrespected her in any way, so I think she will understand as time goes on,” she previously told TshisaLIVE. 

Juggling the new dynamics of her relationship was not easy, especially because she had never heard of a sangoma pursuing polyandry. 

“It has never happened before. I've also not heard of any sangoma go through it, so it's also new to me, but it's fine. It comes with a lot of challenges, but I'm learning a lot every day.” 

While facing backlash on social media, Gogo Skhotheni said though she knows her arrangement is unusual, she is up for the challenge.

“I've asked [my ancestors] about another thing that I can do besides this, but clearly it's not working out because they keep telling me the same thing. 

“I thought, why not? Why can't I accept this as well? Even if it's bizarre to some people, I will just do it. I know it won’t make sense, but as long as it makes sense to me, why should it make sense to people who won't live that life?”